2BHappy: Don’t Compromise 3 Things at Work Place– Secrets to Happiness for Recent College Grads and Everybody Else

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The commencement day is coming. For many soon-to-be college grads, graduation can be very exciting and yet stressful because it is time to take full responsibility of themselves. I would like to introduce three things that you should never compromise to find happiness at your first job, or your current career.

No. 1: Never Compromise Your True Love

There is one rule and one rule only: you have to love what you do. It takes some trails and errors to discover your mission in life, but don’t give up. If something doesn’t feel right, chances are you are probably right. Listen to your gut and follow your instinct.

If you are like me, who didn’t have a clear understanding of what I was built to do when I was in college, I recommend you read career guidance books such as

Now What?: The Young Person's Guide to Choosing the Perfect Career

Those books provide guidance to define what work environment, salary, and skill sets you would like to get/give. If you have been working for many years already , it is never too late to re-exam your mission and passion. Since people evolve constantly, there is a chance that you may have out-grown your current job responsibilities.

No. 2: Never Compromise Integrity

The general rule of thumb is hide no secret by:

1. Staying away from office politics.

It may be news, but your e-mails, instant messages, and casual conversations during lunch break are all totally transparentAt the end of the day, people are here working 9 to 5 to make a living, not a friend. Your light-hearted contribution to your colleagues’ discussion of your boss’s nose can be damaging to your reputation.

2. Owning up to your mistakes. 

Disasters start from hiding tiny mistakes. Air-planes crushes, medical incidents, and law suits are often given birth by tiny mistakes buried. It is hard because your age, work experiences, and income level limit your courage to cope with the potential consequences, but own up to your mistakes anyway.

Resources to explore on this topic:

–The president of James Madison University, Jonathan Alger and other faculty members elaborated ethical reasoning via this video:

The Madison Collaborative: Ethical Reasoning in Action

8 key questions used to evaluate the ethical dimensions of a problem?
  • Outcomes – what are the short-term and long-term outcomes of possible actions?
  • Fairness – how can I act equitably and balance all interests?
  • Authority – what do legitimate authorities (e.g., experts, law, my god[s]) expect of me?
  • Liberty – what principles of freedom and personal autonomy apply?
  • Rights – what rights (e.g., innate, legal, social) apply?
  • Responsibilities – what duties and obligations apply?
  • Empathy – how would I respond if I cared deeply about those involved?
  • Character – what actions will help me become my ideal self?

–For many work place/ leadership tips, here is one of my favorite books of all time

What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith.

I can recommend this book to you all day long. It is written to teach mid or higher level managers how to avoid common mistakes at work, yet I find it useful for recent grads too.

When you face an ethics dilemma, read great books, seek help from mentors, then make a decision that your mom would be happy with. Remember that at workplace, everything is transparent. It is safer to apologize early on when the situation is within control.

No. 3: Never Compromise Your Imagination

Don’t let your boss, your clients, your life partner, or even yourself dictate you who you are, or who you are not. Know that your family, your job, your history, or your future don’t represent who you are.

Watch Steve Harvey’s flea story  on Youtube (you will need VPN connection if you are in China) for his perspective on this topic.

I encourage you to take 5 minutes each morning and evening to close your eyes, take slow, deep breaths, and picture yourself achieving your dreams, whatever they may be.

For example, if your goal is to become an author by publishing an e-book on Amazon, then sit down and make a plan for it.

Step 1: Do Research. 

Use Google, Linkedin, and even pick-up the phone to call a friend who published a book. Here is a tutorial that you can find on Google within 1.5 second.

Step 2: Find a mentor 

It doesn’t have to be somebody you know. There are many thought leaders teaching people how to efficiently publish books. My mentor Dr. Charette has recommended http://michaelhyatt.com and I love it!

Step 3: Prioritize 

Write down all the major responsibilities that you have and qualify them. Publishing a book may not fit in the most important quadrant for you. Then it is time to cool down and re-think.

Step 4: Dedicate time for your goal

Set a S.M.A.R.T goal and protect it. I believe that if something is not on my calendar, it doesn’t exist. Be realistic about it. If a 3-hour straight writing session over 5 weeks are too much to ask for, maybe have 4 half-hour sessions each week for 10 weeks instead.


Those are the three things that I believe we should protect at work place to gain happiness. I encourage you to share it with your friends and colleagues to get more people live a mindful life. If you are on WeChat, subscribe to 2BHappy’s public account for more articles.

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